Earlier this week, many people in the U.S. and abroad celebrated Father’s Day. While most families were home celebrating the day, there was a heated debate ensuing on social media. It seems that some single mothers chose to recognize themselves for Father’s Day and/or were celebrated by their friends and family for dong the job of both parents. Some men took the defensive and questioned why can’t men have a day for themselves. Women replied with equal fervor citing the amount of dead beat fathers and the lack of responsible men in the community. Why is this even a debate? Why are there so many single-parent households in our community? Where are the fathers? The Bible has the answers to our questions.
About 30% of children in the United States grow up without their father in the house. Approximately 50% of minority marriages end in divorce. Statistics show that this has a devastating effect on our community. Why is this occurring? How can this be changed? Is there a Biblical answer?
To understand why this is happening within our community, we have to start with the root cause of the problem…
Deuteronomy 28:15 “But it shall come to pass, if thou wilt not hearken unto the voice of the LORD thy God, to observe to do all his commandments and his statutes which I command thee this day; that all these curses shall come upon thee, and overtake thee:”
When you look at the condition of our people in the United States and throughout the world, they are NOT in a blessed condition. This happened because we have broken the Lord’s commandments and refused to repent! Therefore, the curses fell upon us. These curses are manifest in the suffering of our families and communities. So what are the Curses that destroyed our families and where are the Fathers?
They are in prison:
While people of color make up about 30 percent of the United States’ population, they account for 60 percent of those imprisoned. – Isaiah 42:22 But this is a people robbed and spoiled; they are all of them snared in holes, and they are hid in prison houses
: they are for a prey, and none delivereth; for a spoil, and none saith, Restore.
They are in the grave:
In 2011, African Americans made up 13 percent of the nation’s population, but accounted for 50 percent of homicide victims, – Jeremiah 9:21 For death is come up into our windows, and is entered into our palaces, to cut off the children from without, and the young men from the streets.
They are in sin:
72% of Black children are now born to single mothers. – Deuteronomy 28:54 So that the man that is tender among you, and very delicate, his eye shall be evil toward his brother, and toward the wife of his bosom, and toward the remnant of his children which he shall leave
These scriptures explain that because we did not obey the commandments of God, our fathers would be killed, imprisoned or fall so far into sin that they would even depart from their own children. But are we destined to remain in this cursed state? The answer is no! We must repent, follow the commandments as they are written in the Bible, and establish our families according to the scriptures.
In the book of Genesis, the Heavenly Father provides the righteous example of Abraham for a perpetual example of how to govern our households. Genesis 18:19 For I know him (Abraham), that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.
1st Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
The Heavenly Father is commanding our men to repent and return to the teachings of the Bible in the spirit of Christ. This means he MUST leave off from fornication, idolatry, violence and any other sin which prevents him from being a righteous example in the sight of God and his family.